PDF The Power of Attachment How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships Diane Poole Heller PhD Peter Levine PhD 9781622038251 Books

Product details Paperback 224 pages Publisher Sounds True (March 12, 2019) Language English ISBN-10 1622038258

The Power of Attachment How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships Diane Poole Heller PhD Peter Levine PhD 9781622038251 Books Reviews

• Diane Poole Heller is the best authority on attachment that I've found throughout years of research. She emphasizes somatic experiencing, trauma, healing and hope. She's informative for mental health professionals (me), trauma survivors (me) and people who want to heal their attachment injuries and create healthy relationships (me again!)
  
  I also recommend her audio presentation ("Healing Your Attachment Wounds," available on Audible or Sounds True.) It's great and she has such a soothing voice, which is a bonus. I feel more securely attached just listening to her! She has a lot of the same info in the audio as she does the book, but I haven't found it to be redundant. It's helpful to have two different formats.
• This book was wonderfully written. The author used very understandable language and a gentleness that is hard to miss. I really appreciated that the author gave strategies for each attachment style to help one work towards a more secure attachment. I highly recommend.
• The best thing about this book is the author’s gentle, reassuring tone. I’ve read other books on attachment theory that explain the attachment styles and provide relationship advice, but this is the first book that really made me feel like there is nothing wrong with those of us who have an insecure attachment style. I love how the author often writes in first person plural point of view (“When we grow up with an avoidant adaptation” or “Those of us with an ambivalent attachment style”), creating a sense of inclusion and acceptance. It makes this subject so much easier to read about.
  
  This book describes all four attachment styles secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and the often-neglected disorganized style. The author explains that these styles are on a continuum and can be quite fluid, changing over time and within different contexts. She maintains that anyone can learn how to function more securely and enjoy a happy relationship. To that end, she provides tips and exercises for working on your own attachment issues as well as learning how to understand and get along better with people of different attachment styles. Importantly, she also provides some suggestions for when it may be best to move on from a relationship.
  
  This book was easy to understand and emphasized a hopeful message that intimate connection is everyone’s birthright. I recommend this book for anyone interested in improving their relationships, or for counselors who want to help clients with attachment issues.
  
  I was provided an unproofed ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review. Because I have not seen the final published version, I cannot comment on the final editing and formatting.